Saturday, October 31, 2009

Have a Happy & Safe Halloween!



Here's a few photos of our pumpkins and our carving/painting party. It was the first time that Bean had ever painted.
He was really concentrating. So cute!


I didn't know Abby knew how to draw/paint smiley faces until *BAM*
there was a smiley face on her pumpkin. What a fun surprise!

Her teachers say she loves to draw at school and when they have free-time, that's usually what she chooses to do. She comes from a long line of artists, so I shouldn't be surprised.

Thursday, October 22, 2009

I've Been Thinking...

I do a lot of thinking. Maybe too much sometimes. It keeps me awake at night. But what I've been thinking about lately has got me reevaluating why I keep this blog. It all started with that poor little "balloon boy" and the supposed hoax orchestrated by his father. Then I started thinking about that show on TLC, Toddlers & Tiara's and that got me thinking about the whole OctoMom thing. Maybe not the most seamless stream of thought, but I'm not a professional.

What do I have in common with these people? Not much, really. Other than that we all have children and we all put our kids on display. I like to think that I'm not in the same category as these people. I'm not fake-crying on the news about my not-missing-so-much-as-hiding poor, exploited kid. I'm not making Abby get a spray tan and her teeth whitened so she can earn that big sparkly crown. I'm not giving birth to 8 kids (THANK GOD) and then talking about it all over tv with enormous, collagen injected lips. But I am writing a blog about and posting pictures of my daughter on the Web. Is it any better?

Sure I tell myself that it's my way of raising awareness about the Autism epidemic. I make efforts to keep our specific location a secret, but I know that it's not hard to figure out our general vicinity. I use caution when I choose the photos I post, not wanting to show anything too specific to our home or town. Am I exploiting my daughter? Writing this blog has been so therapeutic for me. Not only does it allow me to share our story, but I work through some of my least proud parenting moments and then am able to reflect and find the good in each experience we have.

And the most wonderful part of writing this blog is all the great feedback I get from all of you! I've made a wonderful blogger friend who I seem to have a lot in common with. And I'm increasingly blessed by the comments I get from parents of "typical" kids, because I'm reminded that parenting is the most challenging blessing we've ever been bestowed whether our kids are "special needs" or not. And all of these things are good and noble, but when I'm really honest with myself... I write this blog for me. I hope that it helps other people, but at it's root, it's all about me. So why isn't it filled with photos of myself? Am I exploiting my child for my own personal gain no matter how noble my intentions? I don't know.


So today... I'm posting a photo of myself. This is me and while I write about my daughter, Abby the Gentle Giant, this blog is all about me, me, me and my quest to be the best mom I can be. Should I be writing a blog about it?


Maybe I should only post photos like this zoomy accident of both Abby and I.

Monday, October 5, 2009

1 in 91

National Children's Health Survey Report Finds

Autism Prevalence Now 1 in 91

Autism Society Calls for Answers to Crisis Now

A national report released today in the journal Pediatrics reveals that 1 percent of U.S. children ages 3-17 have an autism spectrum disorder, an estimated prevalence of one in every 91 children. This is a dramatic increase from the one in 150 prevalence rates currently reported.

“This national study charts a dramatic rise in the prevalence of autism in the United States and we applaud this administration’s recognition that autism is an urgent public health priority,” said Autism Society President and CEO Lee Grossman. “But families today are asking: how high must these prevalence rates rise before the nation responds? Significant resources must be directed toward screening and diagnosis, affordable interventions that treat the whole person and comprehensive education plans to foster lifelong skill development so that people with autism will have the ability to work and live independently.”

The report, entitled “Prevalence of Parent-Reported Diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder Among Children in the US,” published in today’s issue of Pediatrics, was conducted by the Department of Health and Human Services National Survey of Children’s Health, using data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The report was conducted via a telephone survey of over 78,000 parents, and determined a point prevalence of 110 per 10,000 respondents, roughly 1 percent of the population of children in the United States.

On a constituent call to discuss the report, the CDC reported that its initial analysis of the Autism and Developmental Delay Monitoring project data, due out later this fall, confirm the 1 percent figure. This report will also contain more data on age of diagnosis, groups affected, and access to interventions.

The increasing numbers have long-term economic costs to the country, as autism is a chronic medical condition affecting people across the lifespan. “Lifespan services, particularly for adults, are typically inadequate and inappropriate,” Grossman stated. “This new data should be a call to action to the government to improve and increase services and supports first.”

The Autism Society has been working with Congress on several key bills, which have stalled. “The information in this new report highlights the pressing need for additional services, support and treatments for families affected by autism spectrum disorders,” said Senator Dick Durbin (D-IL). “My bill, the Autism Treatment Acceleration Act, will help children and adults with autism gain better access to coordinated services, improve training for professionals treating these disorders, and will relieve the financial burden on the millions of families struggling with this disability.”

This bill, if funded, would provide funding for applied research into effective interventions, the first ever demonstration grants on adult services, create an adult prevalence study, and fund family support and information networks.

“Autism affects millions of American families, and the cost of diagnosis, early intervention, and treatment imposes a heavy burden on most of them,” said Congressman Mike Doyle (D-PA), co-chair of the Congressional Autism Caucus. “This legislation, the Autism Treatment Acceleration Act of 2009, would improve the dissemination of information between autism researchers and service providers, improve training for professionals treating autism spectrum disorders, and mandate that health insurers cover the diagnosis and treatment of autism spectrum disorders. Enactment of this legislation would do a lot to help millions of American families.”

“The increase in the reported prevalence of autism across the nation testifies to the urgency of executing a comprehensive strategy in response to this public health emergency,” said Congressman Chris Smith (R-NJ), co-chair of the Congressional Autism Caucus. “For its part, Congress must ensure robust funding to support aggressive programs of research, education, and services. Furthermore, Congress needs to enact additional legislation, such as the Autism Treatment Acceleration Act of 2009, that will establish the infrastructure and mechanisms for delivering appropriate services across the lifespan to individuals with autism and their families. We must look to maximize the reach and impact of our investments and activities by closely coordinating government efforts with those of national advocacy organizations, such as the Autism Society.”

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Saturday, October 3, 2009

The Symphony- Take One

We are music fans in this house. All types of music.

From Tchaikovsky to Tori Amos.
From Miles Davis to Metallica.
From Bocelli to Radiohead and so on.

We love it all.

Abby goes to sleep each night listening to They Might Be Giants' Here Come the 1-2-3's. God forbid something ever happen to that cd. The earth might implode. But that obsession is for another blog posting.

Once while playing with Play-doh and listening to the Opera music station that is part of our cable package, Abby suddenly stopped during a particularly melancholy part of the song to listen. Her breath caught and her eyes welled up with tears as the music crescendoed (is that a word?). She was overcome with the emotion of the song. (Does she speak Italian?) She took a deep breath and then proceded with her Play-doh sculpture. When I remembered to tell her Dad about it a couple of days later, he said she'd done almost the exact thing one day while playing with blocks and listening to Classical music. This shouldn't surprise me. Classical music makes me cry, too. It's just sooo beautiful! It makes my heart feels like it's going to explode.




We were recently gifted (thank you, D & M) season tickets to our local symphony and when Ab's dad was going to be out of town for the first concert of the season, we thought we'd try to take Abby to see the show, Beethoven's Ninth. Now we knew this was a risky venture. I prepared myself to leave early and prepared Abby by telling her,

"The music is going to be loud, but we have your ear plugs and you can hold your hands over your ears if you want to."

"It's going to be dark, but it's just like the movies and you will have your blankie snuggle and Mama will be sitting right beside you. You can sit on my lap if you'd like."


We bought her a new dress and new tights, which she adorably calls "pants socks". We got all dressed up and loaded into the car. As we were walking toward the Frauenthal Theater, I pointed out the lights on the building and Abby put a little more spring into her step. As we got into line, all the old ladies "ooohed" and "awwwwed" at my cute little girl. Men gave us skeptical looks, but smiled anyway and Abby exclaimed, "This is so exciting!" My heart melted.

We made our way to our seats and sat down. I tried preparing her by whispering everything that was about to happen into her ear. The lights dimmed and the concert master, Jenny Walvoord, entered the stage. Abby sat up straight and clapped enthusiastically with the rest of the audience. "The conductor will come out next.", I whispered. And when Scott Speck made his entrance, she clapped again. She looked so grown up and excited!

The lights went dark. I felt Abby get nervous beside me. I gave her her blankie and a snack and kept my hand on her knee to let her know I was there. Then the music started. And Abby panicked. It was so loud and the sound resonated deep in our bodies. It was more than she could handle. She was in the early stage of a full-blown meltdown. We hurried quickly out of the theatre and into the hallway. I tried to convince her to listen to the music in the hallway and then try again at the intermission, but she was having none of it.

"The symphony is scary!" she told me.


Oh my. Well I hope she doesn't feel that way when we try again next year or the year after. I thought she'd make it through at least a few songs, but oh well. I'd prepared myself for it. On the way home she said, "Thank you for driving me in the car to the sympony, Mama." I think she just enjoyed getting all dressed up and going to the symphony, even if we didn't stay for the show. It was worth it for me. And apparently it was for her, too. And besides... she loves her new "pants socks".