"No! I have to say no!"
My first reaction to this is obviously annoyance, but I find myself thinking, "I'm just glad she speaks and understands language enough to back talk. After all, typical kids DO this." This is what a kid is supposed to do. This is how we learn to stand up for what we need. What we want. It's how we learn to negotiate. And how we learn what NOT to say to our parents.
But something else about it struck me. The part where she say's, "I have to say no!" Like it's an impulse she can't resist. She HAS to say no. Maybe she feels she really does have to protest. Before Abby had her words, she screamed. About everything. Doctors, friends and relatives would ask,
"What does she scream for or about? What are the situations that makes her scream?"
And we would answer,
Because even when it was something Abby enjoyed or wanted to do, she screamed. Like she was instinctually protesting. What if Abby really DOES feel as if she HAS to say no? What if there is something inside of her brain that just makes her initial reaction to everything "No!" even when the answer is yes. It will be interesting to watch this phase of Abby's language development over the coming months. But in the mean time, even if she has to say no! she will have to learn the consequences of her Sassy-Pants attitude. Like everything in our life, this should be interesting.